04754cam a2200313 i 4500 283110690 TxAuBib 20020313120000.0 020313s2001||||||||||||||||||||||||eng|u 2001044102 9780060188993 $25.00 0060188995 $25.00 TxAuBib rda Warshak, Richard Ades, 1949- Divorce Poison : Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex / Dr. Richard A. Warshak. 1st ed. New York, NY : ReganBooks, 2001. 305 p : hardcover ; 25 cm. txt rdacontent n rdamedia nc rdacarrier Includes bibliographical references (p. [293]-298) and index. Introduction: Stealing The Soul -- The Delicate Balance -- The United Front -- When Silence Is Not Golden -- How to Distinguish Between Helpful and Harmful Criticism -- Bad-Mouthing, Bashing, And Brainwashing -- Bad-mouthing -- Bashing -- Brainwashing -- Parental Alienation Syndrome -- Children Who Resist Divorce Poison -- Alienated Children -- The Hate Campaign -- Trivial Explanations for the Hatred -- False Abuse Accusations -- Polarizing Parents: Saints and Sinners -- Parroting Adults -- Declaration of Independence -- Hatred by Association -- Alienation Without Divorce Poison -- Justified Alienation -- Child-Driven Alienation -- Understanding the Roots of Alienation -- Is It Alienation or Not? -- False Accusations of Parental Alienation Syndrome -- Malignant Motives -- Poor Boundaries -- Revenge -- Narcissism -- Guilt -- Insecurity -- Seeking Validation -- Holding On with Hate -- Paranoia -- Reenactments -- Hostility Toward the Children -- Custody Litigation -- Preventing Alienation During Custody Litigation -- Remarriage -- The Alienating Environment -- Isolation -- Relocation -- Kidnapping -- Stripping -- Fear -- The Corruption of Reality -- The Name Game -- Repetition -- Selective Attention -- Judging Behavior Out of Context -- Exaggeration -- Lies -- Revisionist History -- The Total Change Theory -- Suggestions and Innuendos -- Exploitation -- Projection -- Rationalization -- Holier Than Thou -- With God on Our Side -- "The Truth" -- Overindulgence -- Encroachment -- Cloak and Dagger -- Cognitive Dissonance -- Conspiracy -- Tamper-Resistant Packaging -- Poison Control -- Empathy -- The Power of Indirect Communication -- Fly on the Wall -- Two Steps Removed -- Using Third Parties -- Strike While the Iron Is Cold -- Creating Bridges -- Healing Experiences -- Memorializing the Positive -- The Way We Were -- Sowing Seeds in the Psyche -- Vacations -- Divide and Conquer: The Value of Separating Siblings -- Contagion Control: Helping Children Stay Neutral -- With God on Our Side--Revisited -- Agree to Disagree -- No One's Perfect -- Think for Yourself -- Brainwashing 101 -- Films and Television -- Become a Better Parent -- Avoid Common Errors -- Damage Control -- Ann Landers's Reconciliation Day -- Getting Professional Help -- When to Call the Therapist -- How Therapy Can Help -- How You Can Help Your Therapist -- Selecting Therapists -- Conditions of Treatment -- Child Custody Evaluations -- Phasing In Versus Moving In -- Moving Out of One Home Without Moving into the Other -- Hiring an Attorney -- Letting Go -- When to Let Go -- How to Let Go -- Staying in Touch after Letting Go -- New Bridges -- Alienated Children as Adults -- Coping with the Loss -- Hope for the Future. Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, you could lose your children's respect, their affections---even, in extreme cases, contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing for fear that any response would result in greater injury to the children. But with twenty-five years of helping families, Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that a passive approach just leaves parents feeling helpless. And the damage to children is considerable, particularly when warring parents enlist children as allies in the battle. The problems range from tainted parent-child relationships in which children are disrespectful or reluctant to show their affection, to disturbances in which children are disrespectful or reluctant to show their affection, to disturbances in which children virtually disown one of their parents and all their relatives on that side of the family. 20020313. Children of divorced parents Family relationships. Divorced parents Family relationships. Divorce Psychological aspects.